Life Lessons Learned From 8 Years Of Constant Travel

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Life Lessons?

First let’s get our minds in the right place.  Watch this entire video.  

 

Watching videos such as this one, and engraving the words into our minds is sure to bring further success and greater happiness in your life.  If you love the video like I do, then listen to it a few times per month to bring your mind to a good place.

Life Lessons and Advice is much easier to give than to follow …

For one, some of us believe we can work it all out on our own and despise it when people give advice; especially when advice wasn`t requested. 

This can easily be a detrimental belief and attitude.  We should fill our heads with advice and life lessons to avoid the mistakes that others have made and to appreciate the same things proven to bring others happiness.

Check out the tips and tricks below – learned from 8 years of constant travel :)

Life Lessons explained …

It is true that most people want the same things, and there are several ways they get those things depending on factors such as: location, financial status, and access to education.

Vastly different as the world’s cultures are, if you speak to Italian millionaires, homeless Brazilians, Dutch fishermen and Filipino computer programmers, in their own languages, you start to see that we are all incredibly alike where it matters.

Everyone just wants validation, love, security, enjoyment and hopes for a better future. The way they verbalize this and work towards it is where things branch off, but we all have the same basic desires. You can relate to everyone in the world if you look past the superficial things that separate you.”

Benny Lewis – Traveler

Benny loves to travel especially places where he is not familiar with the language.  He blogs on his adventures on “Fluent In 3 Months” and the life lessons he has learned along the way. Benny said he learned 29 life lessons over 8 years, here is my take on some of the simple pieces of advice he gave.

Don’t defer your happiness to a later date.

Start today, define the steps to achieving happiness and make sure you are always working to take those steps.  Define as many things that will make you happy as you can think of. 

Because of the way we are wired when we get what we thought will make us happy we almost always want something more nearly immediately.  Keep moving, slowly and surely, towards things that will make you happy.

Stop waiting for your ship to come in.

No seriously, it’s highly unlikely that we will win the lottery so making plan B is great idea.  If you have time – create plan C, D, E… 

Be careful when you start to think about what you “deserve”.  For the most part people get exactly what they deserve even when it doesn’t seem like it at all.  The Universe owes us nothing.  So we should start doing something with our time besides waiting for something fortunate to happen.  Start building your own ship so you can take it anywhere you want.

Unlearn your desire to believe in destiny.

Control your own fate.  If you are a failure or unsuccessful, believing that’s just what you were born to be is the worst thing you can believe.  Stick with the belief that through the right actions and reactions we can create our fate.

Open your mind to different opinions, and perspectives.

Look for people with an opposing view point wherever you can.  If you are against something that is happening, then go to where it is happening and talk to the people who support it. 

This can teach you ways to better influence people to believe your side of the coin.  Being humble and admitting that we could be wrong, will help us find interesting conversation and fun debate.

Nobody has it all figured out and they never will.

Life would be pretty boring if we knew everything or had everything figured out.  If we did know everything, that would be a huge boulder on our shoulders. 

Think about it, what would there be to talk about or learn?  How would we surprise one another?  What would make people interesting and stand out?

Don’t assume that others have it easy.  If you look into it, everyone’s life is a struggle.  It may be hard to see that because people get really good at hiding their struggles.  They want to have it all figured out, to be over it, to be strong.  We will always need people to help us figure things out.

Don’t be afraid of not knowing something.

“The first step to knowledge is acknowledging that we are ignorant” - Socrates

Don’t be afraid to say “I don’t know”.  Although it may make us look unintelligent it really means we are ready to learn.

More money will not solve your problems.

Often people believe that a certain amount of money could make them happy and relieve a lot of stress in their lives.  The truth is having money comes with a whole new set of problems in itself.    

Possessions can own you.

Sometimes people buy things to impress other people.  In fact I’d say that is true with many purchases like clothing, homes, and cars.  Usually some weight in the decision is based on what others will think. 

In this way we simply buy things because we think they give us something more than their purpose.  The fewer things you actually own the easier it will be on you. 

When we get to that point we purchase things that are for ourselves, and not for influencing the opinions of others. We can then genuinely enjoy and appreciate what we were able to purchase.

Speaking only English is limiting.

Try to pick up the local language when you travel and stay in foreign places for substantial periods of time.  It is certainly necessary to learn the local language if you are to experience the true culture of the area. 

Luckily there are well educated people almost everywhere that will know the local language as well as English.  Latching onto someone like that can help you learn the language quicker and allow you to better understand the culture.

Foreign culture rarely follows common stereotypes.

Nearly every country is developing and with that development come new culture and an even stronger embrace on tradition and what makes each culture unique. 

For example if you go to Ireland you may be surprised that many Irish people do not drink.  If you travel respect the diversity and understand that just because something doesn’t make sense to you doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with it.

Relax, slowly pace yourself.

Doing things faster usually means we do things with less effort, and thus the product of our work is not as good as it would be had we taken our time. 

Many cultures around the world are very laid back.  Patiently and attentively listen. Don’t interrupt, what you have to say can wait.  Walk slowly and take in everything around you. 

Don’t try to please everyone.

It’s just not possible for everyone to like you.  No matter what we do there is always a chance someone could be displeased with it. 

Once we believe this and understand that perhaps we do not want everyone to like us, our self-esteem takes a giant leap upwards.

Learn from mistakes.

Whether you make a mistake or someone you know or have heard of does there is a lesson for all of us to learn.  Make lots of mistakes and take with you the greatest lessons learned.

Stop thinking about it and do something.

Thinking about something has never got it done.  It is the first and vital step to getting things done but the real reward comes from action.

Dance, sing, make new friends, and cherish old friends.

All four of those things can make us feel great.  Dancing and singing can cause our endorphins to start flowing and an audience can take us on a natural high.  Making new friends is always adventurous and fun just the same as getting together with old friends that you cherish.

We all need a little love.

Perhaps you fear the word.  Sometimes life can hurt and inappropriate relationships can make us feel trapped and unappreciated. 

Remember the alternative to not having love is being alone.  And of course when that is true you are usually looking for someone to love.  We don’t need love to survive but without a little bit of it our lives are very empty and lonely.

Well guys, what do you think? Any other life lessons you care to share? Please do so in the comments below.

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  1. Traveliving blog

    SO true! Especially “Stop thinking about it and do something”. Too many of us spend years thinking and planning and only few get up and start doing something. Meanwhile times slips through our fingers and opportunities go by…

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  2. blessing

    Thanks for this.To be sincere,it have really change how i think.Perhaps you won’t understand,but i know what am saying.

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  3. Francis

    Greeat video! I found it most inspiring and will try and watch it once a week. Thanks so much

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  4. Akram

    So nice post here! The video is also helpful. Thank to the writer and thanks every body put message here.
    Best Regards
    akram

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  5. Taylor Parks

    “We don’t need love to survive but without a little bit of it our lives are very empty and lonely”. – That is a great quote and so true! We cannot wait for our ship to come to us. We have to get out there and swim to IT! Good points here. Thank you for all the inspiration.

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  6. Andrew

    This are realy great tips, even though we think that we know it well, it is not too much to hear it again
    Andrew

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  7. Jon

    The Universe owes us nothing. Very true. But equally the Universe is exceedingly abundant so it behoves each one of us to stake our claim to our share. Of course the best way is to give to others along the journey and the Universe will return the favor. Selfish, or should I say “self-centered” folk may appear to gain the trappings of wealth in the short term but I’m sure they lose in the long term whilst the givers enjoy healthier lifestyles.

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  8. Chris Carpenter

    Very well said Jon!

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  9. RC Thompson

    Yup, great video! Which is why I for-went the corporate world out of college and moved to Vail…to follow my dreams of living life first! Still here, and still living…14 years later! Love this place!

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  10. Chris Carpenter

    I’m guessing you are a skier or snowboarder. Any snow there yet this season? I’m in Mexico right now, just surfed this morning. But I’ve been watching ski/snowboard videos the last few days – I can tell I am getting antsy to get on the snow.

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  11. RC Thompson

    Hey Chris,
    Yea, skiing is my passion, for sure. Snow is a little thin right now. But not bad early season conditions so far. The mountain just opened 2 weeks ago. Storms are on the way though. There are a few IMers here in town, one of whom you just featured his interview. As well there are a few others that are part of the crew that you’d recognize. We’re all putting lifestyle first, work second! Come on up and join us. You’ll have the best guides Vail mountain has to offer. (After 14 years, I know it like the back of my hand!) Keep up the good content. Thanks.

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  12. Robert

    Great video Chris – Thanks for sharing.

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  13. Chris Carpenter

    Glad you like it! I think it’s good to watch videos like that (even though you could consider it a little sappy) every once in a while to keep one’s energy positive.

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  14. Alice S.

    I like! And it’s all true. We do need to just relax and let it all flow.
    Thanks, Chris!

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  15. Chris Carpenter

    That’s right, just “go with the flow” :-)

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  16. Mike Helton

    Hi Chris,

    Very, very good.

    Nice.

    Sometimes I look back only to see that the things I feared at the time are no longer there and were not near as large as I thought they were at the time.

    So I look ahead into my future and wonder if I’m just following a pattern that I laid down long ago. I hope not.

    I hope I don’t get too serious and let life pass me by.

    Thanks,

    Mike
    P.S. Great video!

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  17. Chris Carpenter

    I agree! Another thing is, you never know when your ticket is going to be up. So no need to worry too much about the future, but enjoy the present moment.

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  18. Bill

    Indeed,

    you are where you are, because your cumulatative decisions has brought you exactly where you are right now, so the universe is working in conjuction with what you and I do on a daily basis!

    Reflection and taking 100% responsibility for our life is the 2st key to happiness.
    Forgiving ourself and others 100% is the next step to inner freedon and growth. I know it´s not easy, but re-read Chris message, to figurte out why it´s indespensable if u want to be where u want to be sooner rather than later!

    Taking massive outcome-driven action towards your dreams, despite slow progress or doubts, is the logical 3rd and last step – at least this is how I overcame my big and small doubts if I can quit my 9-5 and start to control my time and enjoy my life consciously.

    I am still not where I finally want to be, but I feel doing the above eveyday, learning from people who can inspire me like Chris here and ending/ avoiding relationships with people who will always critisize and blame others, has free my mental and physical energy to be spent towards my goals and destiny and not spending them on buying-in into things that do not let me grow, but just let me show off or fight city hall!

    Chris, travelling the world with an open mind and heart and at the same time educating yourself in things like inner growth while respecting your body by treating it the right way (including dancing like no one is watching) makes you unstoppable and attractive to the right things and people, step by step, don´t rush, but don´t hesitate another day too.

    Live your life like it´s intentional.

    Thax to Chris and everyone in here, keep the good vibe:)

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  19. Chris Carpenter

    Thanks for sharing your positive words Bill!

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  20. Dennis

    I’ll go get some sunscreen then contemplate on the rest. Lot’s to think about, good things.

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  21. Jairo

    Excellent post, thank you for sharing.

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  22. Sandy

    Love your post! Very good lessons to live by!

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  23. Trish OLeary

    LOVE LOVE LOVE this video and post Chris!! You have helped me put my mind in the right place this fine beautiful morning. I am grateful for you and your blog:)

    Cheers,
    Trish

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  24. doris

    Great teachings Chris. Socrates was s great man. It.s good to follow his teachings. There.s s modern philosopher that.s even greater and smarter because he didn.t let them kill him although they really tried you are a wiseman.

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  25. Aubrey

    I like to say thank, this was an interesting blog & its true that we learn from our mistake if you don’t make any i geus theres no learning anything, we will always think what we do or everything we is always right.

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  26. Kathy

    Thank You Chris,
    I needed to be reminded of what is really important .

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  27. Rafael Rodriguez

    Thanks for you to share your comments about your life experiences. I agreed with you in almost everything. That w’ll help many people to get a better way of living their own lives. From now on I’m going to try to practice this statements in order to increase the harmony betwen my relatives.

    Thanks again

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  28. Todd Shore

    Never be afraid to try new things! Live life one day at a time!

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  29. Debi

    Great post and love the video. Thanks for starting my day out well.

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  30. John Vincent

    Hi Chris,

    Love it:-) The music gets really funky at 4.10…

    Great pearls of wisdom…

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  31. Esteban

    Thank you Cris, I like read your post, it’s the help that I need to go on on the road.

    Best Regards
    Esteban

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  32. Rolando Street

    Love this !![:-))>~

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  33. philip

    Floss!

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  34. Benny Lewis

    Thanks so much for sharing my Life lessons post and your take on it! :)

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